![]() Hear and understand the other person’s side or argument.In order not to let an argument escalate emotionally, make sure you: Remember: your goal is not to just prove yourself right, but to also (potentially) learn something new you never considered before. To combat this, try to avoid getting too emotionally invested in an argument. That’ll be about the time you completely stop listening. This habit, however, can escalate to the point you start creating counter-arguments or thinking of comebacks in your head non-stop. When that happens in a conversation, you may find yourself wanting to be right and prove the speaker wrong at all costs. Two people will never agree with each other about everything - that’s a fact. So, instead of criticizing the speaker internally, try to "keep your head in the game" and pay attention to what is being said. Imagine, for example, a student focusing more on the lecturer’s wardrobe choices this morning instead of listening to what they’re talking about regarding the upcoming exam. So, chances are, you won’t come off as too friendly, and won’t be able to get your point across, whatever it might be. If you’re talking to someone who you don’t really like too much, you might be negatively predisposed towards the interaction and the person themselves. Focusing on the Messenger Instead of the Message So, instead of deciding something is old news before you even hear it, try to keep an open mind and look for something yourself or new in what the speaker is saying and you’ll be a more attentive listener in no time. However, if you get into a conversation thinking it won’t be exciting or that you already know everything the speaker has to say, you are likely to miss out on the chance to learn something new or gain a different perspective. Not Keeping an Open Mindīill Nye once said “ everyone you will ever meet knows something you don’t” and we couldn’t agree more. To become an effective listener, you should first learn to avoid all the habits that can a bad listener, starting with: #1. ![]() Facial expressions and tone of voice are what deliver 93% of the message when we speak and only 7% is communicated through words.We only remember 17% to 25% of what we listen to.Nichols`s book showed that in the first and second grade 90% of children were listening to their teachers, while in middle school that number dropped to 44% and in high school to 28%. ![]() A school experiment described in Ralph G.
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